Chatting up strangers ?

nevermind
March 16, 2008, 03:45 PM posted in General Discussion

Some of you mentioned that they sometimes approach "Chinese-looking" people on the street/in restaurants etc.. I'm determined to give this method a try. Is it likely that they will actually react positively? I'm probably not the most outgoing of persons so I'm interested in suggestions for good conversation starters that won't offend my prospective interlocutors. (And what to do if they're Korean/Vietnamese or only speak Cantonese?) 

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nevermind
March 16, 2008, 03:48 PM

Darn it...*sigh* My deepest apologies for double posting.

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pchenery
March 16, 2008, 04:24 PM

I've tried this approach a few times, mostly when I go for lunch break to a fast food place or restaurant. Before initiating conversation in Mandarin with the staff, I will first listen to them talking to ensure that they are indeed Mandarin speakers. If they are, I start with simple phrases that I have reviewed and have a level of confidence with in terms of tones and pronunciation. I also rehearse their expected questions and how I would respond. I've always received a very positive response. It certainly does give you a great opportunity to practice and meet new friends. Good luck.

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tvan
March 16, 2008, 05:12 PM

I usually only try out my Chinese if I'm in a Chinese establishment. However, paulc's advice is good; make sure they're speaking Mandarin. I've had some negative reactions from Cantonese/Toisan (??) speakers in San Francisco.

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furyougaijin
March 17, 2008, 04:28 PM

It's all about your attitude. Don't look like you are gonna care about a negative reaction or accept it - and you won't get one. Better still: bring VALUE and positive energy to people and they will most likely respond in kind. Conversation-opening strategies are exactly the same in Mandarin as they would be in your mother tongue: i.e., any phrase will do, no matter how random. For many reasons I personally prefer not to open my mouth to speak a foreign language unless I can actually stick to this language throughout the interaction. But if someone's goal is to practise just a few stock phrases, once again, why should they care that their interlocutors might hear this stuff from foreigners all day long?